She works with couples and individuals, specializing in intimacy, sexuality, and self-realization. Finally, when we can be accountable and make amends, we are forced to face our humanness. It’s painful, but it forces us to understand ourselves more deeply and hold ourselves with compassion.

IV. Response to Comments Raising Statutory and Constitutional Concerns

The purpose of Step Nine is to acknowledge the harm caused during active addiction and to make it right with the people involved, as much as possible. Even though they have similarities, living amends are different than making amends. While making amends is apologizing, living amends means living a completely new, sober lifestyle, and being committed to that lifestyle for both yourself and those you’ve harmed in the past. It means that you’re not just living amends using your words to show a change, your actions are proving this change as well. When held in the bonds of an addiction, it’s not uncommon for many relationships to feel strain, or to fall apart together. The beautiful part of recovery, especially when done in conjunction with the Twelve Steps of AA (Alcoholics Anonymous), is the chance to not only mend the injured relationships but to take it a step further and turn your apology into living amends.

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When making direct amends, it is usually best to do so after a sustained period of sobriety and while in a calm state of mind. If you have devoted the necessary time and energy to the first 8 steps, you should have a solid foundation from which to approach making amends in Step 9. Your relationship with a higher power—no matter how you define it—can help you to remain open and willing, even as you acknowledge hard truths about pain you have caused to others. When choosing to make amends, exercise careful consideration of yourself and others to ensure you avoid causing further harm in your recovery efforts. Before you decide who to approach and how you intend to make amends, reflect on your efforts at recovery and the intent behind making amends. Although recovery in general must be done selfishly (i.e. you must put yourself before others in order to get well), Step Nine is the most selfless of all steps.

• Making amends won’t necessarily play out like the ending of a Hallmark movie.
• The changes that occur due to your efforts positively affect your commitment to becoming a better friend, child, parent, or person all around.
• Remember, this is a Twelve Step process that can provide a platform for healing, but the person we are reaching out to may not be at the same place in healing as we are.
• This is usually pursued by alcoholics and addicts in recovery as a necessary part of healing relationships damaged because of their past substance use.
• In the NPRM, we described a significant body of evidence demonstrating that LGBTQI+ youth are overrepresented in the child welfare system and face worse outcomes.

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A full continuum of care treating addiction and dual diagnoses with medication-assisted treatment, family therapy, and holistic therapies in Northern California. Making amends helps repair relationship problems caused by addiction. While the process may seem daunting at first, you can make amends in a way that’s sincere and respectful.

When first writing your list, don’t worry about including everyone you have wronged. Over time, as you strengthen and deepen your recovery from addiction, you will undoubtedly revisit Steps 8 and 9 many times. Eventually you will find you are making amends day by day through the positive actions you routinely take in living by Twelve Step principles.

Federalism Principles

We believe this clarification in the final rule will allow more LGBTQI+ children to be safely served in their current placement. Second, ACF acknowledges the concerns of commenters that families who do not meet or seek to meet specified requirements to serve as a designated provider for LGBTQI+ children could be mislabeled as “unsafe” under the terminology of the proposed rule. ACF acknowledges the particular concerns of faith-based providers and families of faith who serve as foster families. We appreciate the vital role that many families and providers of faith play in the child welfare system, and ACF is committed to upholding Federal legal protections for religious exercise, free speech, or conscience as further discussed in the “Response to Comments Raising Statutory and Constitutional Concerns” section of this preamble.

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It can be a challenging list to write, even for those who want to embrace forgiveness and inner peace—but the list is important. By working through the list in Step 9 and making amends to each person named there, you will restore a piece of yourself with each conversation. Along with reinforcing new behaviors and outlooks, making amends can also reduce stress. Many who lived with addiction have past behaviors they’re not proud of. By proactively correcting previous mistakes, those in recovery may be able to prevent future conflicts that could trigger a relapse.

Substance Abuse and Mental Health Disorders

• Through these restorative actions, you demonstrate your commitment to change.
• Instead, it remains constant, or even decreases to a minimum value at equilibrium.
• However, in the context of grief recovery, David Kessler, in his book Finding Meaning, talks about the importance of living amends as a tool for grief healing.
• Requires that 15A NCAC 18E .0302, Local Health Department and Department Rule, be implemented as follows.
• At this time, that may include simply having a conversation where you acknowledge any financial burden caused by your actions and the fact that you cannot currently lift that burden even though you wish to do so.

The process of making amends is not about us fixing everything—that comes in time and from going to meetings, attending to our recovery and cultivating a relationship to a Higher Power. Step Nine can leave you emotionally exhausted; it’s a difficult step to navigate. But the rewards you’ll reap from living amends can help make the challenges easier and more productive. Plus, you’ll find that as relationships heal and friendships are repaired, you’ll have more support and encouragement from those around you, and nothing is more helpful in recovery than a community of valuable family and friends. Requires CPH to adopt a rule to amend the System Malfunction and Repair Rule consistent with this provision. However, even if you feel extremely motivated to make direct amends, it is advisable to take your time with this step.

• Making amends is one of the most important parts of 12 step programs.
• The FHE Health team is committed to providing accurate information that adheres to the highest standards of writing.
• As discussed in Section IV, a couple of commenters asserted that concepts included in the proposed rule that relate to a child’s identity place individuals and organizations of faith at risk of being accused of retaliation that would unconstitutionally infringe on their free exercise of religion.
• For example, some people may require medically supervised detox as a first step, followed by residential alcohol treatment.
• On behalf of the Children’s Bureau, the Capacity Building Center for Tribes (the Center for Tribes) is also available to assist tribes with implementing the final rule.
• —The Act authorizes the Secretary to review state compliance with the title IV-E and IV-B program requirements.

Sets forth rules pertaining to enforceable law upon relinquishment of jurisdiction that a city in Moore County is regulating under the authority of extraterritorial planning under Article 19  of GS Chapter 160A, or its successor Chapter GS 160D. Provides for notice to county by cities within Moore County to be provided at least 180 days before August 1, 2025. Requires the RCC, in reviewing the relevant provisions of the State Building Code, to include relevant provisions from the NC Administrative Code and Policies volume.